Sunday, March 29, 2009
A friend of mine wrote this blog about Soulmates and I thought it was so great and so on point that I wanted to post it to my blog. It definitely struck a cord with me because my art focuses on how I see myself and how my relationships effect me. I have always believed in soulmates and that there is a match for everyone. I hope you guys enjoy the read albeit a long one..lol
Soulmate Universe by Shamayim
WARNING this blog is going to be long...real long. So don't complain because I warned you. :)
It all begins in belief.
I have always believed in my Soul Mate. I believe that our love was
created before our bodies were. That our love affair was written within
the stars during the seven days of creation. Yahweh personally designed
the love that I would take part in. I use to believe that he chose the
person who I would embrace but as my understanding developed and
matured concerning this matter i have devised a new motion of knowledge.
I use to pray for vain things concerning my soul mate. I wanted a
beautiful, smart, funny, and interesting mate. There is nothing wrong
with those desires but man was I leaving out the most important things.
Because I prayed for such trivial things I continued to receive such
trivial women in my life. Not that these women were bad people by any
account they were just bad for me. Many of whom will make excellent
wives for another man.
But Yahweh has a great and wonderful plan for my life. A life that will
be dedicated to serving Him and helping His people...ALL PEOPLE. He has
ordained a woman that will compliment my strengths and support the
wisdom of my growth. He has provided a love that surpasses earthly
Seeking love my way leaded me down paths where women encouraged me into selfishness. MONEY,POSSESSIONS, and POWER.
These women did not encourage me grow spiritually or mentally. There
was no encouragement towards being who Yah created me to be...I was
allowing them to hold me back.
I invested into relationships that did not hold the same value or
weight of commitment as I did concerning love. We would have polar
opposite ideas of priority. Everyone from their family to their friends
to their jobs to their school to their pets came before their
relationship with me. They often had this "Sex in the City Mentality",
a intimate relationship with their friends. Friends had took the place
of their significant other. They would even designate titles and terms
of endearment which should be reserved for their partner (baby, honey,
sweety,etc.) I would like to say that these unfortunate situations were
rare but many of my male friends were telling me of their similar
situations. It seems that women have become so distant from the power
of love that they began to replace an idea of a husband with their
bestfriends becoming their...wife/wifey or even calling them soul
mates. Check how many do it on facebook lol. I know many of you will
see such things as simple and not destructive in the grand theme of
things and more then likely you are without your soul mate. How absurd
and disrespectful of love to participate in such un-romanticism.
I discovered when you talk about soul mates, to leave plenty of room
for possibility. True love is a big, deep, mystical topic. I have spent
much of my time trying to develop a soul mate theory. I now know that
there is no such thing. My advice instead is to keep an open mind,
explore different ways that people describe soul mate love, and begin
to create your own personal description.
In soul mate relationships, people bring one another something they
don’t already have and take each other to a place neither have ever
been. In its purest essence, soul mate love brings an end to the sense
of separation because it truly is like being reunited with the self. In
the process of loving one another, your soul mate will help heal you,
but can’t be responsible for fixing you--even if he or she wants to,
don’t let ‘em! The healing process must begin inside yourself.
We often deny this soul mate relationship by holding on to non-soul
mate relationships. It’s important to discern when one particular
relationship has run its course. Most of us know, but sometimes it is
hard to let go. It is difficult to let go of a relationship that offers
companionship, sex, fun, or financial security. But when you want a
true soul mate, holding on to a relationship that only imitates love
keeps us from the very thing we say we desire.
Our old affairs must be done away with completely and totally in order
to make room for the fullness of our soul mate. Be honest and begin the
process of peeling old love stuff away. Still have a photo on the
mantel of you and your high school sweetheart? Are you still sleeping
on the same bed you shared with an ex? Do you lounge around the house
in an ex’s old shirt? Be gone with them.
Develop the Capacity to Identify True Love
By the time your soul mate stands before you, eyes searching into your
own, heart connected to yours, you will have both done quite a lot of
personal and spiritual development work. At any age, we need to work on
developing the capacity and maturity to distinguish real love from
“hope” created by fantasies you project on someone who has “potential.”
We know that it is Yahweh's will for people to have a mate if they
desire one. In the beginning when Yahweh created Adam, Yahweh Himself
made this statement:
"... It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help mate for him" (Genesis 2:18 KJV).
"Now Yahweh said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the
man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted,
completing) for him" (Genesis 2:18 Amplified).
Yahweh wants to bring a mate to those who will ask Him and have the
patience to wait for a person who lives according to His ways
There are some single people who are constantly out looking for a mate,
and they are miserable because Yahweh has not sent them one yet. They
have prayed and prayed, yet they still have no mate. Some settle for
Satan's provision instead of asking Yahweh for the patience to wait for
the one whom He would send. If they would look to Messiah and seek to
please Him, rather than being concerned about a mate, soon they would
find the right one crossing their path. Looking for a man or woman to
just keep them from being lonely or just to fill their needs or to be a
father or mother to their children should not be the only reasons for
desiring a mate. They also need to be concerned about what kind of
husband or wife they would be for a mate. These single people are still
much in the flesh if they just want their own needs met. They should
ask the Lord to fill them with His love and peace.
Being single is an important time to prepare us for marriage. It can
also be a time to experience a closer communion with Yahweh. As we seek
Yahweh to cleanse us of the world and help us become the kind of wife
or husband that would bless someone, we will soon find that we are not
lonely. First, yahweh would begin using us to bless others; then we
will find we are content in Him. Eventually, in Yahweh's plan and
timing, He will bless us with a wonderful mate so that both lives can
be a witness for Him. We believe if a marriage cannot glorify Yahweh,
then it would be better to remain alone. There are worse things than
being alone. One of these is to be out of Yahweh's will by compromising
and marrying someone who does not feel the same way we do about Yahweh.
Marriage is the second major choice we make in our lives, and we should
never enter into it without much prayer. To rush into a marriage can be
disastrous. The most important decision of our lives, of course, is our
decision to follow Yahweh. This decision is not a one-time declaration,
but a daily determination to follow Messiah's walk above all. If we
allow the emotional realm to dominate our lives we become more
susceptible to the enemy leading us astray through someone. This area
of the flesh should be brought under the Yahweh's subjection so that
satan does not get the advantage and consequently destroy our lives and
ministries. So many have failed Yahweh because they chose a man or
woman over Yahweh.
We find this true throughout the Bible, too. Solomon's heathen wives
led him into idolatry. Samson lost his eyes because of a woman,
Delilah. David committed murder because of passion for Bathsheba.
Our emotions need to be cleansed as they are not the sign of love. The
true definition of love is "Yahweh is love." If Yahweh is not in a
relationship it is not true love. What this world calls love is really
lust since it is built on what the other person does for me, not what I
can do for him or her. If the other person fails to keep up his end of
the bargain, a divorce occurs because the offended mate is no longer
pleased. This is the attitude of the world's so-called "love."Yahweh's
love loves without receiving back; Yahweh's love is forgiving and
patient. Yahweh's love is gentle and kind. Yahweh's love waits.
Yahweh's love sacrifices.
1 Corinthians 13 in the Bible gives us a beautiful definition of real
love: (In this King James translation the word "charity" means "love.")
1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not
charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries,
and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove
mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give
my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall
fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be
knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I
thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I
know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
Man's emotions are not a reliable gauge upon which to establish a
marriage relationship. We must know in the Spirit that it is Yahweh's
will. It is much better to marry for character than for emotion.
Emotions fluctuate; character doesn't. Emotions are in the soulish
realm, and unless the carnal mind has been renewed, Satan can give us
emotions or feelings of love for someone of his choosing. (If he did
not have this in his power, he could not split up marriages.) One of
his favorite techniques is to suddenly take away the feelings one once
had for his mate and give feelings for someone else. When he has
successfully convinced a person that he no longer loves his or her
mate, then he leads them to divorce, whispering, "You are living a
lie." After he has destroyed that marriage, he then leads one to marry
again by stirring their emotions for another. Often after their next
marriage something happens that they do not expect. Before too long,
friction begins to develop with the new mate, then arguing. Finally,
they find the same thing has happened again; they feel no emotion for
their new mate and the next divorce is in the making. "Falling" in love
is Satan's way. The very expression of these words should tell us
something. A righteous-seeking person should not blindly "fall" into
any trap. Love is bigger than simply falling for someone. Certainly,
Yahweh gives us a wonderful emotional feeling for the one we are to
marry. However, this "feeling" without Yahweh's direction can be
disastrous as Satan can tamper with our emotions and feelings too.
Marriage, in a righteous seeking life, should be based on a decision
directed by the Holy Spirit. A righteous-seeking love for another is a
commitment. Of course, Yahweh will supply the emotions for the mate He
sends, but that should not be the criterion for making the decision to
marry. Yahweh should be sought, and whatever He speaks to us we should
do. He knows the future and what is best for us. If we trust Him He
will not fail us in this or any other important area. Women or men who
allow emotions to rule them will never be victorious people. Emotions
should always follow, never lead.
During Old and New Testament times, fathers and mothers chose the mates
for their children. Yahweh's people were very careful to choose those
who were "believers." We find this practice still prevalent in India
and other Eastern cultures. The parents, being older and more prudent,
made wiser decisions than the children in this area. The divorce rate
in India is only about 7%, whereas in the USA, at the present, it is
nearing 60%. Marriages that are loveless can be saved and restored
simply by asking Yahweh to restore the love that was once there. Sexual
relationships can also be healed by praying for a desire for one's
mate. Prayer is a mighty weapon. Yahweh's love can mend and heal,
providing people are willing to lay down their lives for their mates.
His love will not fade, as does the love of the world.
Those who are single and have never been married are cautioned in
Yahweh's Word to seek a mate who is a like believer. "Be ye not
unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath
righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with
darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14)." Many precious people suffer because
they are living with unsaved mates. Some did not have Yahweh when they
made their marriage decision, but they have since found Yahweh. Those
will have Yahweh's grace and love to win their mates for th Kingdom.
Yahweh always strives to bring the lost mate to Himself through the
partner who knows Him. Mighty miracles of deliverance and salvation
have occurred when people have endured suffering in order to bring
their mates to Yahweh. Those people who have the light, but choose to
marry into darkness by yoking themselves to unsaved mates find that
their flesh has led them away from Yahweh.
Yahweh wants to bless marriage unions and see His plans fulfilled in
both mates' lives. What a glorious plan He had from the beginning for
both male and female. We can trust Him in this important decision. If
we will totally commit to do His will we will never be disappointed in
the one He sends into our lives.
Posted by Marisa at 11:14 PM